Editor's note: Peter Bregman is chief executive of Bregman Partners Inc., a global management consulting firm, and the author of "Point B: A Short Guide to Leading a Big Change". He writes a weekly column, How We Work, for HarvardBusiness.org.

There is a Buddhist story about a poor farmer whose one horse ran away. All his neighbors came to him in sympathy, saying "What bad luck!"

"Maybe," he responded.

The next day the horse returned with several other wild horses. "What great luck!" his neighbors exclaimed.

"Maybe," he responded.

A few days later the farmer's son was trying to tame one of the wild horses when he was thrown off and broke his leg. "What terrible luck!" his neighbors said.

"Maybe," he responded.

A week later the army came through the village to draft all the young men but seeing the broken leg of the farmer's son, they left him in peace. "What wonderful luck!" the neighbors said.

"Maybe," the farmer responded. And so it goes.

My life is a series of lucky accidents strung together starting from the moment of my conception. I was a diaphragm baby.

In college I was planning to go into politics. Then in the spring of my junior year the bicycle trip I had planned to go on was cancelled because the leader broke her arm. So instead I went on a camping trip and it changed my life. I soon gave up politics and began teaching leadership on wilderness expeditions. And on one of those expeditions I met the woman who would eventually become my wife.

Later I built a successful company teaching leadership with lots of employees and several offices around the world. Then, as luck would have it, my company crashed along with the economy and the Twin Towers. It turns out, after some introspection and a solid dose of therapy, that I wasn't enjoying the business the way I had built it the first time. So I rebuilt it in a much smaller, sustainable and fulfilling way.

While I might not have been happy about it at the time, each turn of luck was a catalyst that brought me closer to the life that I'm happily living now.

Some strokes of luck are small. Maybe you enjoy a conversation with someone new. Maybe you read a poem that happened to be sitting on someone's desk. Maybe you bump into the car in front of you. Only years later can you see how fundamentally that moment may have changed your life.

Some strokes of luck are big and you know at the time they will change your life. Maybe you win $10 million with a lottery ticket you didn't even know you had, as recently happened to a woman in Australia. Maybe you lose your job.

What we don't know is how those things will change our lives. All the research points to how poor we are at predicting how we'll feel about something once it happens to us. Lottery winners are no happier than before. Paraplegics are no less happy.

And there's something I've been noticing about people who have lost their jobs recently. They seem happier. Relieved, almost. Not everyone. But in many cases, the fear of losing your job is worse than losing your job. I know a large number of employed people who are miserable on two counts: They hate their jobs and they're afraid of losing them. They're scared and stuck.

But once you lose your job you can move on. Daniel Gilbert, professor of psychology at Harvard University, explained this phenomenon in a recent New York Times article, "What You Don't Know Makes You Nervous." "When we get bad news we weep for a while, and then get busy making the best of it. We change our behavior, we change our attitudes. ... An uncertain future leaves us stranded in an unhappy present with nothing to do but wait."

So when your luck changes, what should you do about it?

Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck has done a tremendous amount of research to understand what makes someone give up in the face of adversity versus strive to overcome it. Her research shows that if someone believes his talent is inborn he'll give up quickly, because any obstacle is a sign of his limitation. He's hit a wall; he can't do something and won't ever be able to.

But if someone believes her talent grows with persistence and effort, she'll work to master the challenge. She'll view adversity as an opportunity to get better.

So here's the good news: You can change your results by changing your mind-set. When Dweck trained children to view themselves as capable of growing their intelligence, they worked harder, more persistently, and with greater success on math problems they had previously abandoned as unsolvable.

Luck changes. Call it fate. Call it God's will. Call it an accident. No matter how well we plan our lives, we're not fully in control. But how we face our luck -- good and bad -- is in our control.

How's this year going? Are you having good luck? Bad luck?

Maybe.

我最近觉得人总是生活在一个期待的状况。。

冬天到了，就期待着春天的来临

结束了这次的旅行就期待着下一个旅程

错过了这一次机会就期待着下一次机会

生了宝宝就期待着宝宝赶快长大。。

现在的我期待着回家

期待见我从未见过的至儿

期待看表弟到底是高了多少

期待啊。。。。

及时

生命是一个过程

可悲的是它不能重来

可喜的是它也不需要重来

很多人却不知道这一生走错了多少的路

但如果你现在明白也不迟

未来是充满希望的

那怕你的生命只剩一点

也要好好的活下去

或许你突然醒悟

请你不要感到害怕

那已成了事实

再也无法回头

但我们一定要明白上天是公平的

每个人的时间是一样的

你想要怎样的结果

就得靠你自己把握

很多人在年老的时候

突然对人好起来

那是他们害怕

害怕没有多余的时间

所以我们不应该一直让人等待

爱要及时

给要及时

原谅也要及时

珍惜也要及时

记住

让你认识了谁

不管朋友或是家人

少了谁都不行

就让我们一起为将来奋斗加油

刚刚看了这一部日剧， 也滴了一公升的眼泪。。。

这是一个真人真事

十五岁的女孩得了绝症，

希望我身边的家人与朋友都能

‘活在当下’

用心的做着自己的本分！！

让我避一避这寒冷的冬天， 今年这个冬天实在太冷了。。

炎热的家，我回来了！！

但愿陪你找回 所遗失的永恒

我们的国歌-NegaraKu

最近在马来西亚就因为这首歌，搞得满城风雨。

这首是我从小学开始天天在周会唱的歌，

Huh? 有这么严重吗? 马来西亚不是一个民主国家吗? 怎么这样啊！

改改国歌并不代表他不爱国，

希望当官的给他一个警告就算了，何必得把他控上法庭呢?

我在这里，祝他好运！！ 

我不得不想念你呀，阳光！！ 

难得伦敦在这一周主办了马来西亚周，我约了两个朋友一同去Covent Garden凑个热闹。。

果然是名符其实的马来西亚周，看见了好多马来同胞，我的马来语终于可以派上用场了，嘻嘻！

也有我喜欢吃的马来美食，不错不错！

逛完了

第一幕让我们看见的是，警察捉小偷记，

第二幕看到的是群体裸体骑单车记！！

一群人，有男有女，有些是半裸，但大多数都是全裸在闹市里骑单车。。。

太搞笑了吧！

这一切的一切，让我做了一个总结，‘ONLY at LONDON'!!!

哈哈！ 欢迎来伦敦观光！

虽然现实是残酷的，但我们得学习面对及接受现实。。

13岁的那年，当我最亲的人遭遇不幸时，生死未知，

身边的亲人都劝告我们，可能有奇迹，一天，两天，三天，。。。

我与妈妈的心里都有数，这世界上难得有什么奇迹的！！

噩讯来了，我们痛苦万分，但我们学习了接受与面对。。

17年了，。。。今天，我最心爱的宝贝失去了宝贵的健康，。。

我更加痛苦万分，我悲伤，。。心疼。。。。

但，我也再一次面对与接受这个残酷的现实。。。

人生也许要遭遇不一样的机遇，才扭造出一个更精彩的人生。。

13岁那年，我已深深的领悟到，当人最无助时，就只好求上帝。。

我深深记得妈妈无助的眼神。。与祈求上帝的眼神。。。她要的是上帝的显灵。。

但，上帝并没理会我们，也许有更需要它救的人。。我们失去了一个最亲的亲人！

今天，同样的，我只能再祈求上帝，好好照顾我的宝贝，让他健康，让他快乐。。。

我祈求。。。。

希望他渐渐好起来就好！神呀，你要救救他呀！

养头牛帮我耕种。。呵呵

我想十年前我可不觉得日子过得比现在快，你觉得呢?

今天跟小表弟谈天，电话中的他声音都变得有一点沙哑了。。。

天呀。。我的小表弟今年已经十二岁了！！猪年。。可是他的本命年！

他听起来好像迫不及待的想成长。。而我还一直想把他当成我的小宝贝。

十二岁那年的我也迫不及待想成长。。

但现在的我。。我想